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Ten lessons to transform your marriage, America's love lab experts share their strategies for strengthening your relationship, John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, & Joan DeClaire

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Ten lessons to transform your marriage

61200615

John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, & Joan DeClaire

America's love lab experts share their strategies for strengthening your relationship

In 1994, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington announced that, through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict--with more than 90 percent accuracy--whether a marriage would succeed or fail. But they did not yet know how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife to develop intervention methods. Here they share this information so that couples can develop the skills to create strong, lasting unions. What emerged from decades of research is a body of advice based on two simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems, and examine what they've done to get their marriages back on track.--From publisher description

"All you ever do is work!" -- "Will we ever get over your affair?" -- "After all the crises in our lives, we don't feel close anymore" -- "You never talk to me" -- "You don't care about my dreams" -- "You're so distant and irritable all the time" -- "I shouldn't have to nag!" -- "There's no passion, there's no fun" -- "We only have time for the kids now" -- "You're not satisfied unless there's some drama."

10 lessons to transform your marriage